Re: Still Searching for Carol Jane Phipps
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Re: Still Searching for Carol Jane Phipps
Kirk Van Ness 1/18/10
I can tell you our group has worked on two searches where the birth mother denied she was the right one on the first contact (made by a search angel), but later called the adoptee back crying saying she was the right one and dna proved they were.
Also in my opinion the search angel should have insisted you contacting her. Unless she's the wrong race /nationality then she just may be your birth Mom.
I suggest the ones that can't make the call to write a letter and send some pictures you don't mind not getting back. One of you as a baby / toddler and a few leading up to you now. Send it regular mail. You could ask for delivery conformation, that way you know it got to her and she don't have to sign for anything.
Adoptees remember your birth mother may have kept your birth a secret and having someone else calling means a stranger now knows their secret.