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WELCOME TO THE ABSHER DISCUSSION GROUP
by John R. Absher, M.D.
PURPOSE: To share information about the name Absher
RATIONALE: There is a legend in my family that my "great-
great grandfather" (and this is by no means certain) changed
the family name from Abshire to Absher so that all of his
decendents could be known by the same name. This story has
been "confirmed" by two Absher that had no known relationship.
I decided that it would be interesting to verify this story,
if possible, since the exploration of my family genealogy is
critically dependent upon it. This would, obviously, apply
to all other Absher families, if true.
FORMAT: This is an email discussion group, "mailing list," and
idea "thread." All of the email you send to the list is saved
in a digital archive. Each new member can get access to this
information.
CAUTIONARY COMMENTS: In starting this discussion group, I was
given a reason to consider the possible disadvantages or risks
of sharing personal family history information with others:
1. Scam artists will take use information about birth dates,
maiden names, or other important facts to take advantage of
Absher family members.
EXAMPLE: With knowledge of a birthdate and initials
a computer hacker could probably penetrate many "secure" areas
of the internet, since many people use these facts as passwords.
SUGGESTION: Don't use the information that will be
shared for the purpose of security passwords of ANY type.
EXAMPLE: Someone could feign familiarity/knowledge of
you or your family in order to claim property, pursue guardian-
ship of a mentally ill, isolated family member, etc.
SUGGESTION: We should strive to achieve written and
pictoral (photographic) documentation of Absher ancestry (e.g.,
birth certificates, death certificates, marriage certificates,
family photographs that are appropriately labeled, etc.). An
email message confirming the existence/location of such documents
is probably good enough (but I invite further comments on this
issue).
2. Confidentiality could be breached, in a way that is difficult
to foresee or anticipate.
EXAMPLE: By noting the marriages and offspring of an
individual, we could reveal a "secret" marriage, unclaimed child,
or something of the sort. I personally believe that there is a
risk of abuse here. For example, if I wanted to take revenge on
a hated relative (I don't have any, really), I could claim that
he was married twice before, and both wives left him because of
physical abuse and infidelity.
SUGGESTION: Documentation is the key here. Such a claim
must be substantiated. Rumours and lore must be clearly separated
from historical fact. Breach of confidentiality cannot be
prevented in an internet forum any more than it could be prevented
when people call each other on the telephone to chat. I do not
believe it is possible to verify and know ahead of time how our
discussions might adversely affect someone else. I suggest that
we remain open to all relevant discussion, seek documentation or
information concerning the location of appropriate documents, and
handle hurt feelings if and when they occur.
3. Other disadvantages undoubtedly exist. These are meant to
stimulate further discussion on the topic before we move on to
detailed revelations about the Absher name.
POSITIVE POINTS
It would be great to know all about the Absher family. I
like the idea of exploring my "roots," and sharing interesting tales
with my children. There are surely many good reasons to explore one's
genealogy, and that's why it has become such a fad.
DISCLAIMER
If you are concerned that you might be upset by information that
you learn by participating in this discussion group, you should not
participate. If you are concerned that information you want to
share could be bad in any way for others who read it, then please
consider silence as a useful alternative to submission of that
information.
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